Posted by: Pomeroy! | April 7, 2008

“Boy, if I were a lamp, I’d light” - Guys and Dolls

In the many issues that are sprinkled in this election year, the issue that seems to be the most confounding to me is the gay marriage issue. I respect (or try to respect) any opinions shared with me, but I don’t get why this one is an issue at all. Since when should certain American citizens not get equal rights? If a gay couple wants to be hitched, shouldn’t they get the same legal benefits that any other married couple get?  I’m missing this one completely. We as a people are adjudicating that a certain group of citizens can’t get the benefits of a married couple because of who they have sex with.

Does anyone REALLY care about who’s fucking who? I sure don’t. I don’t care who straight people are copulating with, for that matter. Yet, we have made a massive judgment upon people because of that very issue.

 

I was having a conversation with one of my friends (who happens to be gay). At one point, he told me that there was a girl he met that he really liked a lot. He was telling me how much he was looking forward to her company.

   So, I asked him:  “Are you switching sides dude”?

   He replied: “Oh, no. I’m just not wired that way”.

 

To me, that makes the most sense. Because from my perspective, I can’t imagine putting a penis anywhere near my person. I don’t even care for my own. It’s just because I have a NATURAL attraction to the opposite sex. And from what my pal was telling me, his natural attraction is a little more of the phallic variety. Because he is a consenting adult, he can boink whomever he wants as far as I’m concerned. And if he wants to get married, I would want him to have the same legal rights that I do.

 

There was a period of time in my childhood that my mom thought that I might have been  gay. And it wasn’t just because many of my peers in school addressed me as such.

I look back and think that my mom wasn’t sure how to handle raising an adolescent male. I felt in many ways she tried to be a dad to me as much as she could. I remember the Christmas when I pulled a Playboy magazine out of my stocking.  I believe I was around 11 or so. I have to tell you… it was pretty damn cool! But it was embarrassing as well. She gave me another  Playboy the following Christmas. After that, she asked me how I felt about receiving them. And I  told her: “I like them… but if I had to choose, I’d rather have the new Garfield book”.

Can you SEE why she started to consider my sexuality? That Jim Davis…. See what you did to me?! Some of my friends still haven’t forgiven me for that one.

 

I would not expect a church to accept gay marriage. If their religion prohibits homosexuality, I wouldn’t want to impose gay marriage on them. I  would never want those churches to not have their religious freedom. Therefore, I don’t see how it’s fair to impose the churches religious beliefs on the rest of society. And by singling out homosexuals we are doing just that.

There was a time when we made judgments about people because of their gender or the color of their skin. We have made enormous progress in heading towards true equal 

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Yeah! I feel like people are making this about their opinion when it’s really about civil rights. Marriage is as meant to be more a legal recognition in modern society than it is about community acknowledgment; this is very different from the traditional/ old-fashioned times when legality was only decided upon community majority. This is kind of a farce in secular nations, where this reluctance by the religiously inclined is hurting a lot of people who didn’t choose to be in a position of social stigma anyway.

When someone’s significant other (equivalent to a spouse) dies, the surviving person should be given the rights of “attachment” that is guaranteed any legally married couple. This is important with such things as inheritance, where inherited things are given to people within a priority list:
1. spouse
2. other family

When the partners are alive, civil marriage is even more important than in death. Things like house buying, banking, insurance, health care agents (someone to speak for a person who cannot speak for themselves in times of illness), etc are endeavours where being married would be a major benefit. In denying a group of human beings the right to marry another human being, we not only discount them socially, but their legal and civil rights.

Right on, PaperD.

I think it’s the whole issue of religion creeping into a place where it governs society. As I said, I don’t expect churches to honor same sex marriage. But to say they don’t get equal legal rights is retarded.

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